Superhero Stance

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So I have to be honest the first time I heard about the Superhero Stance (or Power Pose) was on Grey's Anatomy, but after looking into it, it is a real thing.  "The Benefit of Power Posing Before a High-Stakes Social Evaluation." was a Harvard paper written by Amy J.C. Cuddy, Caroline A. Wilmuth and Dana R. Carney from Berkley. You can read it here: https://dash.harvard.edu/bitstream/handle/1/9547823/13-027.pdf?sequence=1

I don't know about you, but showing off my lymphie leg in public would fall under a "social evaluation" for me.  Looks, comments, whispers and questions.  There came a time where I decided my insecurity of these things would not hold me back from living my best life or break my confidence!  Trust me it still is a struggle at times, but I remember EVERYONE has an insecurity and really people are more focused on themselves than those around them.

My daughter is also getting to the age where she is noticing her body and that other girl's bodies vary from her's.  It's heartbreaking, she is 6 years old and already comparing herself!  It's my job to show her what being confident looks like no matter what my body looks like.  It's not only for me know, I have little eyes watching how I live my life.  What do I want her to hear and see?

So the Superhero Stance. I tried it as a joke.  You stand shoulders back, chin up and your hands on your hips staring confidently into the future.  I'm not sure if it was the stance or the fact that I had time to think deeply about why I needed and wanted confidence, but it worked!

Remember you are beautiful, your body is perfect!  Sure I want to be healthy and always strive to make better and healthier decisions, but this is a journey and another daily decision.  I don't want to wait until everything looks and feels perfect.  We live in the now! And right now, although I'm not at "my perfect weight," Bertha is large and kind of in charge I don't want those things to hold me back on making memories and living my life! I hope you can join with me in choosing life, choosing fun and choosing to love yourself no matter what season of life you're in. xoxo-Allie



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  1. UnknownAugust 7, 2019 at 4:47 PM

    Just came across your blog, I have lymphedema in my left leg. I'm 31 years old have had it since I was 17. People always notice my leg, ask me what I did or just stare but I wear what I want and just accept the fact that it will never look my other leg and that's ok

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